Two weeks have passed since New Years – the night we all vow to make changes. New Year’s resolutions can be invigorating and motivating; they are an opportunity to examine our lives and note the difference we would like to make in the upcoming year.
But two weeks have passed now and some of us are left wondering, “Have I bitten off more than I can chew?” In the spirit of change, many of us get carried away and create long lists of things we would like to change or choose particularly hard resolutions. As the realities of daily life set-in, we realize we may not be able to accomplish everything we had hoped. Feelings of disappointment and guilt are sure to follow when we don’t live-up to our high expectations.
So where do we go from here? First, just because you may have “fudged” a few resolutions or not followed through on others, it doesn’t mean they should be thrown in the trash and forgotten. Every day is a new day and with it comes the opportunity to start fresh. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t changes to be made. Instead of heaping a load of changes onto our lives in one day, we can take a better approach. By gradually implementing new resolutions, we can make changes that last.
You can start by making a list of all of your goals. Then, try breaking your goals into smaller, attainable goals. For example, if one of your goals is to do everything you can to conceive this year, ask yourself, “What steps can I take to ensure that?” Jot down all the different ways you could improve your chances of conceptions. Some items on your list might include:
- Meet with my gynecologist
- Improve my nutrition
- Exercise regularly
- Complete a relaxing activity each week
- Research treatment options with which I am comfortable
Once you have your list, separate each goal into weeks. For example, we could divide our sample list this way:
- Week 1: Schedule appointment with gynecologist
- Week 2: Research treatment options with which I am comfortable, so I am prepared to speak with my doctor
- Week 3: Improve my nutrition by eliminating white sugar, white flour, and other processed foods
- Week 4: Begin exercising three times a week. Find a work-out buddy or sign-up for an exciting exercise class.
- Week 5: Start doing yoga, meditation, or a quiet walk in the park to remain calm
- Week 6: Research other changes I can incorporate into my life to help me conceive
- Week 7: Add beneficial foods to my life – eat more fruits and vegetables
- Week 8: Exercise 10 minutes longer every 3 days, or exercise 4 times a week.
- Week 9: Add a second relaxing activity to my week
Although these gradual changes are not as instantly satisfying as completing an entire set of goals in one day, you are more likely to stick to your resolutions when they gradually become apart of your daily life and routine. Then, when the ball drops and 2010 begins, you will be able to look back at 2009 and be surprised at all you have accomplished.