Chapter Twelve: Painful Intercourse
Unbearable Pain During Sex - Emily’s Story
Tiny adhesions on vaginal walls or within the cervix can cause pain at the vaginal entrance, or with deep penetration. When I was 27, I married my husband, Trevor. As a Christian, I had never had sex before I was married. I thought sex might be a bit painful the first couple of times, but on my wedding night and thereafter, it was awful! I felt like my husband was hitting a wall inside of me. I kept thinking, “We can work this out. If we can just push past the pain, it will be okay.” However, he was just too nice to do that and he didn’t want to hurt me.
Soon, the constant attempts and subsequent pain created a cycle. I would tense in anticipation of the pain to the point that it became both a physical and mental issue. I was so tight that at times he could not enter me at all.
After a couple of years, I went to see my doctor. She gave me some small rubber dilators, but they did not help. At the time, I did not know other treatment options existed and I felt very discouraged.
About four years into our marriage, my husband and I decided we wanted to have children. However, he could not enter me fully and the pain was now almost unbearable. We tried to have sex more often, and the stress of trying to push past the pain was making my menstrual cycles irregular.
My doctor suggested I try Clomid, a prescription drug that aids ovulation. I knew that was just her way of trying to help me, even though the real problem was the painful intercourse.
After three months of Clomid and no pregnancy, she suggested I see a reproductive endocrinologist. I didn’t think my doctor had evaluated me or truly listened to the heart of my problem to merit spending the money on a fertility specialist.
About that time, a friend at my church had returned from treatment at Clear Passage Therapies (CPT). Although they were treating her for endometriosis pain and infertility, she told me that the clinic also used manual physical therapy to relieve intercourse pain.
I was glad there was a place I could go to find help, but I didn’t know what to expect. I decided to apply for a one-week intensive therapy regimen. My husband came with me for support.
I felt very comfortable at CPT, and in control of the treatment. At times, it was uncomfortable because they were treating a very pain-sensitive area, but I could tell the difference as the pain decreased with each session, morning and afternoon.
My husband and I had intercourse a few times that week, and I noticed that the pain was less. Once I returned home and the temporary soreness from treatment dissipated, my husband and I had sex again. He had no problems entering me and the pain was 90% gone! Before treatment he had never been able to enter me fully, and finally he was able to! No one knows but me, my husband, and God. What a miracle this is!
It’s been over six months since treatment now, and my libido and desire are still increasing. My husband and I have been having sex more often and I am still amazed at the difference.
My menstrual cycles also became regular after therapy. Before treatment, sometimes I would go 40 days between cycles. After treatment, they went back to 26-28 days each month . . . but that didn’t last long. I thought I was five days late, so I took a pregnancy test and it showed I was pregnant! I took four more that weekend before returning to the doctor to confirm that I am indeed pregnant!
Although I could not get my doctors to listen to me, I always knew my “infertility” was due to the painful intercourse I experienced. I am glad I found a clinic that actually listened to me and offered a non-surgical solution.
What physicians say:
Learn more about therapy for sexual problems in our book Miracle Moms, Better Sex, Less Pain (publication date: 9/2009).
“The ‘Wurn Technique’ in my professional opinion, is a blockbuster breakthrough both for physicians and women who have known for so long that there was something better out there for treatment of infertility, painful intercourse, sexual dysfunction, endometriosis, and chronic pelvic pain. Their studies also document improvement in all areas of sexual function including desire, arousal/lubrication, orgasm/satisfaction and pain. I know of no other single therapy reported to increase all areas of sexual function.”
- Dr. Scott Miles
Board certified gynecologist and sexologist
Medical Director, Miles Ahead Health and Wellness, Indianapolis, IN
“Clear Passage Therapy is remarkable because it is the only therapy empirically shown to improve all four classical phases of female sexual function --- arousal, lubrication, orgasm, and satisfaction . . . ‘low desire’ and ‘pain on intercourse.’ And it does this, amazingly, without the negative side effects and multiple risks of treatments like surgery or drugs.”
- Dr. John D Perry
Author of “The G-Spot”
